The shared parts of the building have a name in leases and insurance: common areas. Hallways, stairs, laundry room, basement, driveway, yard. On a detached house the tenant maintains most of what they touch. In a fourplex those areas are yours, which means you're paying for hall lighting, snow removal, laundry equipment, and the common area cleaning that nobody in any unit thinks is their job.
Budget it as a line rather than absorbing it. Hall light electric on a small building might be $30 a month, a snow contract in a cold market can be a few hundred per event, and a coin or card laundry setup costs money to install and generates some back. Your landlord policy should be written knowing you have common areas, since slip and fall in a shared stairway is a different exposure than inside a leased unit.
For the friction itself, the tool is a written set of building rules attached to every lease, identical for all units, covering assigned parking space, laundry hours, guest parking, and trash day. Identical matters. Enforcing a rule on one household and not another is where fair housing complaints come from, and that's a conversation for an attorney in your state if it ever gets near you.
On staggered renewals, sable, most people do stagger them, mainly so two units don't come empty in the same month. That's a vacancy decision more than a secrecy one. Tenants will find out what their neighbor pays no matter what you do.