The formula doesn't change. Max offer is still 70 percent of after-repair value minus the repair estimate, and that 30 percent haircut is meant to cover your holding costs, your selling costs and your profit. What changes is how much damage a wrong repair number does.
Say ARV is 400k. Seventy percent is 280k. If repairs are 60k, you offer 220k, and being 20k over on repairs eats a third of your cushion. If repairs are 170k, you offer 110k, and being 20k over on a 170k budget is easy to do, because bigger scopes have more places to be wrong. Same rule, thinner rope.
So the person at the meetup was pointing at the input, not the math. Your walkthrough estimate on a shell is a guess until the walls are open, and that's the honest position to be in.
What operators do about it is size the unknown before they buy. Get a licensed electrician and a plumber through the property during your inspection period rather than a general contractor's eyeball number. Pull the permit history if your local building department publishes it, since a house with no permits since 1962 tells you what's behind the plaster. Then put a contingency in your own budget, commonly 10 to 20 percent on a heavy scope, and treat it as spent.
The other half of the 30 percent is time. Carry costs on a 120 to 150 day hold are much bigger than on the 90-day jobs you've been running, and they come out of the same 30 percent as your profit. Write the carry line out explicitly instead of trusting the rule to absorb it.