The broker's comment has a real point inside the joke, and you're already separating the two parts of it, which is a good sign.
The useful distinction is between credentials and credibility. Credentials are things you can list: deals closed, losses survived, years in a specific market. Credibility is whether a specific person, in a specific situation, trusts that your input will make their decision better. Those two things overlap but they are not the same thing.
Someone who has underwritten thirty 30-unit deals in Tucson, read the broken pro formas, and can explain why the rent growth assumption on page four is optimistic for that submarket has something real to offer. The question is whether the person across the table agrees, and whether what you offer is worth what you charge. A $500 second opinion from someone with deep local pattern recognition can be more useful than a $3,500 review from someone who has done deals in four states but none of them there.
The risk you are describing is real though, and it is worth naming plainly: if you charge before your knowledge is actually tested, and a client acts on your input and it goes badly, that is a credibility problem with consequences. Starting lower, being transparent about what you have and have not done, and framing your work as market and underwriting analysis rather than "I've been here and I know" is how you close that gap honestly.
I am not sure where exactly your knowledge sits on that spectrum, and neither are you yet, which is actually the honest place to start.
One thing worth knowing: Rena's Financial Fingerprint would tell you specifically which advisory and service strategies fit where you are right now, including what your readiness level suggests about timing. It's at projectrena.com/fingerprint if you want that clarity before you decide anything.
What does your Tucson underwriting work actually look like right now, and who has been asking you questions?