This is a real trap and it catches people who did solid work on their preferred equity documents but stopped before pulling the senior loan agreement.
Here is what is happening structurally. In a preferred equity deal, you own a membership interest in the entity that owns the property. Your removal rights, your ability to replace the sponsor if things go wrong, live in that entity's operating agreement. But the senior lender, the bank or debt fund sitting at the top of the capital stack, often has what is called a key principal clause or a non-disturbance provision in their separate loan documents. That clause can say, roughly, that if the named principal is removed or replaced without the lender's consent, the loan goes into default. So your removal right exists on paper and triggers a different crisis the moment you try to use it.
The Dayton situation you described is a clean example of what practitioners call intercreditor subordination, meaning your rights as a pref investor are subordinate to whatever the senior lender negotiated for themselves, even if your pref docs never say so explicitly.
What to read before you wire: the senior loan agreement in full, the guaranty documents naming the key principal, and any intercreditor or recognition agreement between the senior lender and the pref position. If no intercreditor agreement exists at all, that absence is itself important information.
I want to be straightforward that specific document review and what your rights actually mean in a given state requires a real estate attorney, not a forum thread.
One thing worth asking the room: when you reviewed the Dayton deal, did the pref docs include any representation that the senior lender had consented to the preferred equity structure? That language, or its absence, is usually where the problem starts.